Yet another way to demonstrate the same relationship between fear and selfishness is by definition. Consider these definitions: Love is being more concerned with what I can give than with what I can get. Selfishness is being more concerned with what I can get than with what I can give. Fear is being more concerned with what I might lose than with what I can give. When you allow the fear of your wife’s rejection to keep you from loving her by not revealing to her what is biblically necessary for